I believe that poly-compatibility might be like being gay. That is, I am willing to believe that some people are capable of loving multiply and others or not, or some people are capable of sharing their life partners and others are not.
I do not believe polyamory is like being gay. Polyamory is consensual non-monogamy, and therefore requires mutual consent from the parties involved. Being gay has nothing to do with consent, it's just the way someone is, whether they act on their preferences or not.
I believe people can change from polyamorous to non-polyamorous and vice versa. I am not certain how much act of will is involved. It's probably more analogous to being an atheist, being a Republican, or believing in astrology. Our values and beliefs are shaped by our experiences to date, it's not something that can necessarily be chosen.
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I do not believe polyamory is like being gay. Polyamory is consensual non-monogamy, and therefore requires mutual consent from the parties involved. Being gay has nothing to do with consent, it's just the way someone is, whether they act on their preferences or not.
I believe people can change from polyamorous to non-polyamorous and vice versa. I am not certain how much act of will is involved. It's probably more analogous to being an atheist, being a Republican, or believing in astrology. Our values and beliefs are shaped by our experiences to date, it's not something that can necessarily be chosen.
Also, this reminds me of these conversation threads, especially the first one:
http://elusiveat.livejournal.com/393913.html
http://elusiveat.livejournal.com/394575.html
http://elusiveat.livejournal.com/394981.html