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sometimes....
Apr. 8th, 2012 10:21 amSometimes there are things that I don't feel comfortable posting even to my tightest filter here. Not because they would necessarily offend anyone, but sometimes because it contains information that I'm not at liberty to disclose or sometimes simple just because I feel like I am tooting my own horn, kind of like the reverse of whining. Life is good. I am doing things. Some of them are new. Some of the new things are things for which I've been very quietly preparing (sometimes so quietly I didn't know I was doing it.) Some are things I've been actively planning for some time.
Something I've noted more and more is that not only do I not use negative phrasing very much in my own speech and writing, but I am getting urges to comment on my friend's journals when they use negative phrasing. For example, someone started a post recently with "I hate my body". I find that statement not only unproductive, but actually a hindrance to changing the situation. For whatever a negative situation may be, the surest route to positive change is to embrace the problem at it's root, and find the right fertilizer to bring balance into the system. I know this is a simplistic statement, but personally, I've never changed anything by hating it. Find something positive to replace the "I hate" statement. Especially in the case of one's body, we only get one, so we'd better love and nurture it. Sometimes we have to exercise "tough love" and not eat all the ice cream ever, but without appropriate self-care, there is no way we can carry that to others. Happiness starts at home, in ours selves.
Something I've noted more and more is that not only do I not use negative phrasing very much in my own speech and writing, but I am getting urges to comment on my friend's journals when they use negative phrasing. For example, someone started a post recently with "I hate my body". I find that statement not only unproductive, but actually a hindrance to changing the situation. For whatever a negative situation may be, the surest route to positive change is to embrace the problem at it's root, and find the right fertilizer to bring balance into the system. I know this is a simplistic statement, but personally, I've never changed anything by hating it. Find something positive to replace the "I hate" statement. Especially in the case of one's body, we only get one, so we'd better love and nurture it. Sometimes we have to exercise "tough love" and not eat all the ice cream ever, but without appropriate self-care, there is no way we can carry that to others. Happiness starts at home, in ours selves.
