In my experience, being poly (which is somewhat large grab bag for a variety of inclinations and behaviors) is more like being kinky (a somewhat larger grab bag), in that they seem to have both intrinsic and extrinsic components. That is, the tendency toward either seems to be a combination of intrinsic elements, either hardwired or learned at an early age, and extrinsic elements, learned, imposed or triggered at a much later stage of development.
Personally, on the one hand, I consider myself to be more intrinsically poly; the general concept seemed to make sense (even without the specific words) since I've started feeling attraction to people, and my behavior seemed to naturally gravitate in that direction. On the other hand, I'm more extrinsically kinky. I discovered it relatively late in life (I was almost 30) and there was a period (still ongoing to some extent) of learning and figuring out what worked for me and how I fit in.
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Date: 2011-04-14 01:50 pm (UTC)Personally, on the one hand, I consider myself to be more intrinsically poly; the general concept seemed to make sense (even without the specific words) since I've started feeling attraction to people, and my behavior seemed to naturally gravitate in that direction. On the other hand, I'm more extrinsically kinky. I discovered it relatively late in life (I was almost 30) and there was a period (still ongoing to some extent) of learning and figuring out what worked for me and how I fit in.