I find that statement not only unproductive, but actually a hindrance to changing the situation.
I have discovered that for myself, not expressing feelings is a bigger hindrance to change than anything else. Stating things in a positive way when I can is preferable, but if that's not where I am, I get more out of admitting I hate my body right now (or whatever) and moving on from that point than trying to force myself to express it some other way (or not at all, which is what censoring myself usually leads to). There has been *much* positive change in my life since I started letting myself say those things. Your mileage obviously varies, but I wanted to share another viewpoint.
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Date: 2012-04-09 05:23 am (UTC)I have discovered that for myself, not expressing feelings is a bigger hindrance to change than anything else. Stating things in a positive way when I can is preferable, but if that's not where I am, I get more out of admitting I hate my body right now (or whatever) and moving on from that point than trying to force myself to express it some other way (or not at all, which is what censoring myself usually leads to). There has been *much* positive change in my life since I started letting myself say those things. Your mileage obviously varies, but I wanted to share another viewpoint.