That's a wonderful place to be; I'm so glad you and your sweetie have reached it!
I had the pre-surgery meeting with my surgeon on a day when my husband already had something else planned, and my parents pressured me to beg him to cancel his other plans and come with me to the doctor's appointment. The thing was, my husband's plans were something he'd looked forward to for a long time, and while I wished he were available to go with me, I didn't want him to cancel his plans. My parents didn't understand why I would think that, and I finally said, "Marriage isn't about ME; it's about US." And somehow that shut them up.
All of which is to say yeah, it's really nice when a relationship reaches the point where making the partner happy feels like a great thing to do and not a terrible thing. :-)
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Date: 2017-01-03 12:31 am (UTC)I had the pre-surgery meeting with my surgeon on a day when my husband already had something else planned, and my parents pressured me to beg him to cancel his other plans and come with me to the doctor's appointment. The thing was, my husband's plans were something he'd looked forward to for a long time, and while I wished he were available to go with me, I didn't want him to cancel his plans. My parents didn't understand why I would think that, and I finally said, "Marriage isn't about ME; it's about US." And somehow that shut them up.
All of which is to say yeah, it's really nice when a relationship reaches the point where making the partner happy feels like a great thing to do and not a terrible thing. :-)