and don't forget to balance out that other than his day job (details not important) that i'm pretty sure he works the property as well, and in differing no doubt, but he's putting in the time.
i've some friends that had some difficulties a while ago. after they sat down and wrote it all out, it turns out that some of the grievances were perceptual, and a few other details popped up. for example: she complained she did all the house work/etc, raising the kids/etc, etc/etc. he just had a full time job; 50-60 hours a week. turn out on balance he did a significant amount of "uncounted house work", all the shopping, most of the cooking, all the yard work, and so forth on top of his job. she didn't have a job, but she was also doing a few things that turned up extra income they hadn't thought about, and well, in balance, they were much happier with what they discovered. it's not like either one of them was lolling about eating bonbons and watching daytime tv :)
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Date: 2007-09-21 03:09 am (UTC)i've some friends that had some difficulties a while ago. after they sat down and wrote it all out, it turns out that some of the grievances were perceptual, and a few other details popped up. for example: she complained she did all the house work/etc, raising the kids/etc, etc/etc. he just had a full time job; 50-60 hours a week. turn out on balance he did a significant amount of "uncounted house work", all the shopping, most of the cooking, all the yard work, and so forth on top of his job. she didn't have a job, but she was also doing a few things that turned up extra income they hadn't thought about, and well, in balance, they were much happier with what they discovered. it's not like either one of them was lolling about eating bonbons and watching daytime tv :)
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