Confessions of a pagan farmer

I think there are other, more constructive, words to use that could elicit a supportive response from one's friends and describe the feeling or problem. For example: I hate my body, I feel so fat today. (I could say this as well as you, don't feel picked on) to: I feel fat and I dislike this feeling. What can I do to feel better? or I have insomnia! I hate my body! to I am really upset that I have insomnia. So still expressing the feeling, but in a more constructive way.