Thoughts on Relationships

[goddessfarmer]

Equality is not about the money, not is it about who does which housework. Equality is a state of mind. It is a state of mind that is less dependant on what you say or how you treat me, and more dependant on how I feel and think about myself. In relationship, equality springs from the heart of each individual into their thoughts, words and deeds. It has never been, nor will it ever be a state that can be dictated or analyzed by anyone external to that relationship. Just as beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so Equality is to the partners in a relationship. That is not to say that every relationship has equality, many don’t. But that no individual external to the relationship can tell for certain about the equality within.

Comments

[intuition-ist.livejournal.com]

well-put.

i would add to that: extreme inequality is often visible from the outside, but the more subtle the inequality, the harder it is for an outsider to comment thereon.

and further: inequality is possible even when, from an outsider's view, everything is picture-perfect.

as well: the line between "well-meaning" and "nosy" is notoriously blurry. one of the reasons i choose to live in a large city is that I get fewer of both, and more opportunities to think/feel/live as I please and not how my neighbors/family/etc. want me to live.

none of which may have any bearing on what you posted. :)